How to get back up when you’ve been feeling down

Lately I’ve been feeling soo drained but my momentum is slowly building back up and I know I will get back to the place when I was feeling 100%. I feel motived to write this post because I feel like this is the current state that I am at in my life at the moment, so I’m writing from experience which I always do but this is fresh and based on how I’m feeling at this very moment.

Let’s make a start…There will be some days in our lives when we are feeling low and drained, especially if you are putting to much pressure on yourself or your feeling lost in your thoughts, ruminating about things. This post will hopefully help to encourage you to get yourself back up and start over again, regardless of what day it is or what no. attempt it is. It could be attempt 199 it doesn’t matter, what matter is that you try your best.

The first step in helping you to feel motivated which will help you find yourself again is, being able to identify what caused you to feel this way in the first place. Once you can Identify why this is, it will help you move a step further. Always pay attention to how your feeling and when you may have noticed a change in your behaviour, thoughts or feelings. There maybe many reasons why you began to feel low and that’s ok, nobody can judge you for this because we all have these moments, but take some time to identify why. Reflect back to the time when you wasn’t feeling how you are today and what you may have been doing differently. It may be years, months or even days when you noticed the change and that’s ok, identifying the cause (trigger) can help you move forward. In life we can all relapse or lapse, it’s normal it’s expected, don’t put to much pressure on yourself and take you time. You can only go as fast as you let yourself.

The second step once you’ve identified when, why, how you got to this place is working out where you want to be and how you can motivate yourself to get there. Below are 3 tips on what I believe may help you achieve this.

1. Write a letter to yourself

Writing a letter to yourself can make things seems more real and current, in this letter you can include where you are now and where you wan to be in the future. It’s ok if you don’t know how your going to get there, because tomorrow is not promised for anyone, but if you plant the seed for your tomorrow and have an idea of what you want you can water your seed and help it grow. Watering your seed helps Aline your plant with the reality that it will grow and flourish regardless of what it may look like now. Writing where you are now can help things sink in and help you gain clarity of your thoughts. You may find that your not in a good place now, but have an idea of where you want to be and this will encourage you. When writing this letter take your time, don’t rush and be patient with yourself. There is no right or wrong way to write a letter. Just write what comes to your heart and what feels good to you.

2. Write down some Positive Affirmations

Positive affirmations are my go to, when I need that extra boost to help encourage and motivate me. When writing your positive affirmations it can be helpful to start with I AM, so your confining it to yourself and speaking it into existence. Positive affirmations should be statements that help uplift you and encourage you.

3.Write down your Goals

For me I believe that writing down goals helps give you a senses of direction or where you want to go and what you hope to achieve in your life. Goals help give structure to your lifestyle and most importantly help you learn more about yourself.

I hope you have enjoyed reading these 3 steps as they have helped me, when I’ve been feeling down and hope that it can also do the same for you. I hope that this post has inspired you to feel motivated and encouraged when you may be feeling down. If you have any ideas that you want to share with me leave a comment below. Thanks for reading Shar x

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It’s ok to start over

My previous post outlines how I’ve been lacking in my consistency in my work ethic (one day I will share why). That post has motivated me to write this post, so it came in handy. Sometimes in life we can put too much pressure on ourselves to be perfect and to achieve so much. When you write down your daily goals, you may set your mind on achieving every single goal and if your unable to achieve this, you may begin to second guess yourself and you capability. This is normal and it happens there will be some days when you cannot complete all your goals for whatever reason, be kind to your mind and don’t put to much pressure on yourself because this may impact your mental and physical wellbeing.

This blog post is to encourage you all that it’s ok to take a break from things, find yourself and start over. Sometimes taking a break is what is needed to help get back that momentum that you need or first started with. One thing that has helped me in starting over again and not feeling upset with myself for lacking in my work ethic, is my positive affirmations. My positive affirmations is what drives me and motivates me to continue in what I’m doing. Having this affirmations are perfect for days like this, when I’m feeling mentally drained or low because it helps me remember why I started and what my focus and aim is to achieve.

Sometimes in life you may feel low, drained and unmotivated to continue and that’s ok because you are only human and there will be days like this. But always remember to find yourself and get a back up because you don’t want to continue feeling down that it becomes difficult to find yourself again. On the other hand if things do become difficult and you can’t seem to find that motivation to help drive you my next post will hopefully encourage you to get out of this mindset.

Thanks for reading. Shar x

Therapist Diary – 08 – Consistency

Lately in my life I’ve been feeling quite drained and tied and getting tooo comfortable with my bed and being lazy which has showed in my lack of consistency in my blogging. I love being able to blog and share my ideas and I know I need to continue and be more consistent. My work ethnic has decreased in all areas and I need to get back to the place where I was a few months ago (which I will). Quitting my job to do what I love was the best decision I made and sometimes I get easily distracted, so I need to start over again and “Feed my focus and starve my distractions” Blogging is something that is so new to me but makes me feel so happy when I post and share my knowledge, because I know it’s helping someone and from all your views this keeps me going and drives me the most not to stop. So I’m here to say sorry I’ve been away for a while but I’m back and I’m ready for more blogging.

Therapist Diary – 07 – Why I Journal

For the last couple of years I’ve been keeping a journal about my life, I find that writing helps me gain clarity of my thoughts, there are days when I’m feeling so inspired and creative I have to write everything down and start setting myself some goals to achieve. On the other hand there can also be days when I maybe feeling low or lost and I just write down my thoughts. My journal fluctuates, I have a written journal book and I also use my phone (notes). Some of the things I write in my journal can be, prayers, Goals, things I’ve achieved, what I’m happy about etc. My journal is my happy place. Writing a journal has helped be be true, kind and honest to myself because it’s only writing and reading it. One element in particular that I love about Journalling is looking back and re reading the front page,seeking how far I’ve come and grown and how I’ve achieved my goals years later. Such a beautiful feeling.

Below are some ways Journaling also helps me :

  1. Speaking/ Planning things into existence
  2. Reflecting how far I’ve come
  3. Creating my life
  4. Prayer request
  5. Working on myself

Therapist Diary – 06 – Do it Now

In life sometimes we always want to wait for the right time or perfect moment to start something new or do something that we’ve always planned. What I’ve learnt in my journey is that there is no time like the present. There will never be the perfect time to do something and the quicker you start, the more you learn about yourself and allow yourself to grow and develop into the person you want to become. Life is a journey in which we are always evolving and learning new things about ourselves, embrace change and don’t be fearful of the unknown. Sometimes you may feel afraid about setbacks or judgement from others, another thing I’ve learnt is that people are always going to talk, no matter what your do. The best thing you can do in your life is work on yourself and develop in areas which you feel needs improvement. People will treat you how you allow them to, so master your craft, grow, learn and love yourself living your best life.

I wish what I knew now, I knew early in my life but I’m still happy at this stage in my life. I love who I am and who I’m becoming, I’m literally living my dreams connecting and working with people from different countries, doing events, public speaking, panelist speaking, coaching, travelling meeting beautiful people worldwide, building a culture for my business and soooo much more. I wouldn’t change it for the world. #GirlBoss

If you want to do something start now, your future self will thank you for it. 💛

How can I support my Friend with a Mental Health Problem

When a loved one is suffering with a Mental Health problem, it may sometimes feel difficult to know how to best support them and you may feel as if your letting them down or not being a good friend. Mental Health difficulties may make some people feel vulnerable, which may cause them to withdraw or isolate themselves from others. Sometimes it may be difficult for the person to express themselves. Try to remember as much as this is a transition and new experience for you, it is also difficult for the person experiencing the mental health difficulty.

Below are some tips of how you can support a loved one suffering with a Mental Health problem :

  1. Provide a Listening ear
  2. Don’t judge
  3. Check up on them
  4. Let them know you care
  5. Try not to get frustrated
  6. Be patient
  7. Research information for better understanding
  8. Don’t try to change them or rush their healing
  9. Uplift them when you can
  10. Be creative in your communication e.g. create affirmations, do small gestures (it’s the smallest things that count)

I hope that this post was able to help or inspire you to help out a friend who maybe in need. Shar x

I want to come off my Medication

Medication can sometimes be prescribed to patients when Mental Health problems, to help mange how they are feeling and feel able to function in their day to day lives.

Sometimes people may be responding well to the side effects of their medication or they may feel like they have had enough of being on medication for so long. If you are one of these people and you want to stop taking medication it is advisable to speak to your General Practitioner (GP) first before coming off prescribed medication.

It’s important to be aware that your GP should always be the first point of contact and in case of an emergency dial (999 – UK). It’s important to have the conversation with your GP about your views on your medication. Further discussing why you would like to come off medication and if they can support you with this process. Coming off medication with a immediate effect may be detrimental to your health, as this should be a process (weaning off medication) with the support form your GP.

Please speak to your GP of you what to come off your medication. Try not to make any immediate actions before, consulting with a medical professional. I hope that this post was able to help or inspire you, in relation to seeking help for medication. Shar x