How to master being ALONE

Who said below alone has a negative impact on your Mental Health… being alone makes you HAPPIER !! yes I said it HAPPIER

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Therapist Diary – 09 – If I had no followers

If you had 0 followers would you still do what you are doing today.

Being on social media can be a big distraction in life both positive and negatively depending on your interpretation, one question that I ask myself is if I had 0 followers and 0 likes and no support would I still what I’m doing today and the answer to this question is YES.

If I was asked this question a while ago I would have been reluctant and maybe of said NO but I’m so confident in my yes and that’s because what I do in my life I find so THERAPEUTIC for myself, my aim is to inspire others and motivate others but in doing so I’m also inspiring, motivating and encouraging myself. Everything I do now almost feels like a note to self which makes me feel so empowered.

So much has changed and happened in my life and I grow everyday and see changes in myself everyday which is amazing and I am so grateful with the person I’m becoming. When I reflect on my life and how far I’ve come it makes me smile and I done all of this on my own accord, motivating and encouraging myself which makes it so much more humbling and exciting for me.

My biggest goal is to travel the world and inspire millions of people sharing my message and encouraging people to build stronger minds and to never doubt themselves.

I thank you all for your support and for following my blog and I hope that I’m able to inspire you all with my post. Peace and Love ❤️ Shar x

My Perfect day

Have you ever thought to yourself ” What would my perfect day look like” if not It’s time to visualise and get creative. Our mind is so powerful and we can run wild with our imagination, it can almost feel like reality.

Today’s post is going to be an exercise, which I hope you’ll all will enjoy, participate in and share with your loved ones. I want you to think about what your perfect day would look like and visualise this, get a pen and paper and write whatever comes to mind. When you are thinking about this and making your notes, be as detailed as you can and think about your emotions.

Below are some suggestions of the things you can write down, but get creative and add as much as you life. IT’S YOUR PERFECT DAY !! 😊

MORNING

What time would you wake up

What country would you wake up in

What would the weather be like

What room would you wake up in

Who would you wake up next to you

What would be the first thing your do

What would you eat for breakfast

Who would prepare your breakfast

Where would you eat breakfast

What would you do after breakfast

DAYTIME / EVENING

What plans do you have throughout the day

What are you going to wear

How will you have your hair

Who are you with

How are your getting around throughout the day

NIGHT TIME

What time are you going to bed

Who are you going to bed with

Where are you going to sleep

What are you going to wear to bed

NEXT MORNING…….

You maybe thinking what’s the point of this exercise. The reasons why I recommended this as because, I wanted to install hope into your mind that you can achieve anything you want in your life, if your determined to make this happen. You are the master of you own life and you can create the lifestyle that you want if you just believe, think about all the emotions you experienced just writing down and visualising your perfect day. Now can you imagine if you created this lifestyle for yourself everyday, if you can believe it, imagine it you can achieve it.

Hard work pays off, YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF to smile and live your best life.

If you enjoyed this exercise let me know what emotions you felt and share with a friend❤️😊.

Peace and love x Shar

Stop blaming Social Media for your Problems.

Before I begin this post I would like to start of by proving you with some definitions.

The Oxford English Dictionary definition :

Sociable : Enjoying the company of others, friendly and welcoming.

Social : A social gathering

Media : The main means of mass communication, broadcasting, publishing and internet.

Social media : Website and application that enables users to create and share content in social networking.

Networking : A group of people who keep in contact to exchange information.

Reflecting on the definition of theses words, for me it’s confusing how a social gathering is getting confused with a website of application used to share content. For many years now there has been a lot of news based on, social media damaging our society and causing problems for individuals. When did your lifestyle become a website or application to share as a means of mass communication.

I think it’s time to put this to bed, when I hear all of these stories, not for one second do I blame social media. I blame the people going on social media and looking for someone else to blame. In life it’s so easy to blame others for our own wrongdoings or insecurities and not taking into consideration the biggest cause of your problem ourselves. We need to stop looking for others to blame for things we are partaking in willingly ourselves, nobody logged into your social media account but YOU and so you need to take full responsibility of how this is making you feel.

Sometimes we need to sit back and think to ourselves what input did we have to play in this social media faze. Social media is a platform created for a reason to help the right people, perform well and elevate within their business. Think of the the people who use social media correctly and how this is benefiting them,then think about the people who are using social media incorrectly and how it’s disadvantaging them. Below is an example

Using social media correctly

  1. Making money
  2. Building target audience
  3. Elevating business
  4. Inspiring people worldwide

Using social media incorrectly

  1. Complaining about social media
  2. Comparing themselves to others
  3. Low self esteem
  4. No social life

Think about this list I’ve mentioned above and think to yourself are you using social media correctly or incorrectly and if you are using social media incorrectly how are you going to manage this. Social media can be addictive but think about what you exposing your mind to, is it helpful and is it worth it. If it’s not helping you or making you feel good, it’s not worth it and you need to remove it form your life once and for all.

Love Yourself

We live in a world where we are constantly shown or told to love others or love can only be found in a relationship, we watch television programmes like love island or the bachelor, with people constantly seeking love and approval from others and glamorising love from others. Don’t get me wrong loving someone and feeling loved by another person feels great, but loving yourself feels 100000000 times better.

A Poem about Love ❤️

Love yourself when you’ve just be diagnosed with a Mental Health Problem.

Love yourself when you’ve been put on the waiting list for treatment for your wellbeing.

Love yourself when your feeling Depressed and Anxious.

Love yourself when times are hard and you don’t know where to turn.

Love yourself when all you see is darkness and can’t find the light.

Love yourself when you don’t have all the answers.

Love yourself even if others try to bring you down.

Love yourself when you have nobody to turn to in times of need.

Love yourself when your feel lonely

You only have yourself so practice self love and self care, no one can love you more than yourself. ❤️❤️

Just wanted to spread some love in your life today, if you need some support with self love let me know in the comments below or send me a message. Shar x

Why does it take time to Heal

When you are going through a rough stage in life (e.g. Mental Health Problem) I can imagine you wanting to, wave a magic wand to feel like your old self again. This is a common feeling and I have treated patients with common mental health problems who have wanted, nothing more than to feel happier again (understandable).

If this is you, you can get to that place of happiness again, but this will take time and consistency. Working and developing yourself is a process that should not be rushed and should be taken seriously and with care. When you grow you heal and this is how the process of transitioning, from the place where you are now (depressed or anxious) to the place where you want to be (happy).

For example; If you’ve been depressed for over 2 years and all you want is to feel happy, this feeling of happiness is not a common feeling for you at the moment and you may not be aware of what this feels like. Such as how you need to think, feel and behave. This will take practice and learning how to change from the person you are, to the person you want to become. Being unwell for a while you need to be able to recover in a timely manner. Everyone is different when it comes recovery, some people may take months, weeks and for other this may take years and that’s ok because you are on your own journey, finding what happiness is for you and you are not the same as others

Always remember that everything will happen in the right time, if you are working on how to become happy and you want to develop in that area, don’t stop keep going your end goal is around the corner. Don’t give up on yourself.

Thanks for reading I hope this post has inspired you all, to take time in your healing process and to not give up of this maybe a long process. Shar x