Self Doubt and Mental Health difficulties

Mental Health difficulties are different for everyone, which can be dependant on your lifestyle and upbringing. Mental health difficulties can be triggered for many different reasons, such as, transitions, stress, challenging situations, trauma the list can go on each reason is unique to each individual.

Being able to manage you Mental Health difficulty, it’s so important that you are you honest with yourself and how you feel you can cope with what’s going on in your life at present. Mental Health difficulties can be a struggle to comprehend and get your head around and sometimes you may need help, but you may also be able to help yourself. The key to answering this question is being honest with yourself but not doubting you ability to take care of your Mind. Its ok to be scared and unsure of how your going to do this, if this is the case you can take the time to reflect on this and maybe find ways to help yourself. For some people Mental Health difficulties may make them uncomfortable and nobody likes to feel uncomfortable, however in order to get comfortable you have to feel uncomfortable.

As previously mentioned, try and write down how your Mental health difficulty is affecting you and think of some ideas of how you can potential help yourself get through this. Also it may helpful and less stressful, to get loved ones involved if they are aware of your difficulties and together you can plan a self care programme that can help you. Alternatively if you have tried to Mange this yourself and you feel that you are unable to do this alone, maybe think about seeking professional help. Sometimes people need a helping hand when they get stuck and things become challenging. There are services out there that can help support you through these difficult times.

Stay strong and take care of your Mind x

I hope you enjoyed reading this post and it’s helped inspire you, in wanting to take care of your Mind. Love Shar x


How to get back up when you’ve been feeling down

Lately I’ve been feeling soo drained but my momentum is slowly building back up and I know I will get back to the place when I was feeling 100%. I feel motived to write this post because I feel like this is the current state that I am at in my life at the moment, so I’m writing from experience which I always do but this is fresh and based on how I’m feeling at this very moment.

Let’s make a start…There will be some days in our lives when we are feeling low and drained, especially if you are putting to much pressure on yourself or your feeling lost in your thoughts, ruminating about things. This post will hopefully help to encourage you to get yourself back up and start over again, regardless of what day it is or what no. attempt it is. It could be attempt 199 it doesn’t matter, what matter is that you try your best.

The first step in helping you to feel motivated which will help you find yourself again is, being able to identify what caused you to feel this way in the first place. Once you can Identify why this is, it will help you move a step further. Always pay attention to how your feeling and when you may have noticed a change in your behaviour, thoughts or feelings. There maybe many reasons why you began to feel low and that’s ok, nobody can judge you for this because we all have these moments, but take some time to identify why. Reflect back to the time when you wasn’t feeling how you are today and what you may have been doing differently. It may be years, months or even days when you noticed the change and that’s ok, identifying the cause (trigger) can help you move forward. In life we can all relapse or lapse, it’s normal it’s expected, don’t put to much pressure on yourself and take you time. You can only go as fast as you let yourself.

The second step once you’ve identified when, why, how you got to this place is working out where you want to be and how you can motivate yourself to get there. Below are 3 tips on what I believe may help you achieve this.

1. Write a letter to yourself

Writing a letter to yourself can make things seems more real and current, in this letter you can include where you are now and where you wan to be in the future. It’s ok if you don’t know how your going to get there, because tomorrow is not promised for anyone, but if you plant the seed for your tomorrow and have an idea of what you want you can water your seed and help it grow. Watering your seed helps Aline your plant with the reality that it will grow and flourish regardless of what it may look like now. Writing where you are now can help things sink in and help you gain clarity of your thoughts. You may find that your not in a good place now, but have an idea of where you want to be and this will encourage you. When writing this letter take your time, don’t rush and be patient with yourself. There is no right or wrong way to write a letter. Just write what comes to your heart and what feels good to you.

2. Write down some Positive Affirmations

Positive affirmations are my go to, when I need that extra boost to help encourage and motivate me. When writing your positive affirmations it can be helpful to start with I AM, so your confining it to yourself and speaking it into existence. Positive affirmations should be statements that help uplift you and encourage you.

3.Write down your Goals

For me I believe that writing down goals helps give you a senses of direction or where you want to go and what you hope to achieve in your life. Goals help give structure to your lifestyle and most importantly help you learn more about yourself.

I hope you have enjoyed reading these 3 steps as they have helped me, when I’ve been feeling down and hope that it can also do the same for you. I hope that this post has inspired you to feel motivated and encouraged when you may be feeling down. If you have any ideas that you want to share with me leave a comment below. Thanks for reading Shar x

It’s ok to start over

My previous post outlines how I’ve been lacking in my consistency in my work ethic (one day I will share why). That post has motivated me to write this post, so it came in handy. Sometimes in life we can put too much pressure on ourselves to be perfect and to achieve so much. When you write down your daily goals, you may set your mind on achieving every single goal and if your unable to achieve this, you may begin to second guess yourself and you capability. This is normal and it happens there will be some days when you cannot complete all your goals for whatever reason, be kind to your mind and don’t put to much pressure on yourself because this may impact your mental and physical wellbeing.

This blog post is to encourage you all that it’s ok to take a break from things, find yourself and start over. Sometimes taking a break is what is needed to help get back that momentum that you need or first started with. One thing that has helped me in starting over again and not feeling upset with myself for lacking in my work ethic, is my positive affirmations. My positive affirmations is what drives me and motivates me to continue in what I’m doing. Having this affirmations are perfect for days like this, when I’m feeling mentally drained or low because it helps me remember why I started and what my focus and aim is to achieve.

Sometimes in life you may feel low, drained and unmotivated to continue and that’s ok because you are only human and there will be days like this. But always remember to find yourself and get a back up because you don’t want to continue feeling down that it becomes difficult to find yourself again. On the other hand if things do become difficult and you can’t seem to find that motivation to help drive you my next post will hopefully encourage you to get out of this mindset.

Thanks for reading. Shar x

Don’t give up on yourself

If life things will be difficult and they may not go according to how you had them planned in your mind, don’t give up on yourself. Life is a process and anything can happen, within this process. When you fall down, get back up and start over. Everyday is a fresh start a new beginning, you owe it to yourself to not let yourself down, you are stronger than you think and you can do this.

If Oprah Winfrey gave up on her dreams and gaols , she wouldn’t be inspiring the millions of people she is today (Below is a YouTube video you of her story). Now you may not want to be Oprah but I’m sure you want more from your life just as she did, despite all she went through.

Keep going, keep pushing, keep striving. You are not alone. Thanks for reading. Shar x

Stop Judging others and be Kind to their Minds

The world would be a much better place if people learn to stop judging others for their individual differences. There are millions of people on this earth from different walks of life, been brought up differently, taught different things and exposed to different events and situations that make them the persons they at today and add to their story.

Within today’s society, it feel like it’s become the norm to criticise and stigmatised people when they are low and vulnerable, then wonder why suicide rates are high or why Mental Health problems are constantly on the rise. Sometimes it’s not about the problem but how we treat the individual with the problem. Learning from others is the best way to make progress and find solutions for ongoing situations. When you judge others you make the problem worse, for them instead and that’s telling them that you don’t care.

We need to learn to accept people for how they are and not judge them, based on the chapter of their life you walked in. The year 2015 was one of my worst years of my life and if you meet me then, I most definitely not have been the person I am today.

So this post is a gentle reminder for people to think before they judge others or have something to say about another persons life. Your judgement can be damaging for a person and could be the final straw for them, so be kind to other people’s mind and spread love and happiness.

Thanks for reading and if your one of those people who judge others think before you speak and ask yourself would you like to be judge in this way.

Spread love and Happiness. Shar x

Why does it take time to Heal

When you are going through a rough stage in life (e.g. Mental Health Problem) I can imagine you wanting to, wave a magic wand to feel like your old self again. This is a common feeling and I have treated patients with common mental health problems who have wanted, nothing more than to feel happier again (understandable).

If this is you, you can get to that place of happiness again, but this will take time and consistency. Working and developing yourself is a process that should not be rushed and should be taken seriously and with care. When you grow you heal and this is how the process of transitioning, from the place where you are now (depressed or anxious) to the place where you want to be (happy).

For example; If you’ve been depressed for over 2 years and all you want is to feel happy, this feeling of happiness is not a common feeling for you at the moment and you may not be aware of what this feels like. Such as how you need to think, feel and behave. This will take practice and learning how to change from the person you are, to the person you want to become. Being unwell for a while you need to be able to recover in a timely manner. Everyone is different when it comes recovery, some people may take months, weeks and for other this may take years and that’s ok because you are on your own journey, finding what happiness is for you and you are not the same as others

Always remember that everything will happen in the right time, if you are working on how to become happy and you want to develop in that area, don’t stop keep going your end goal is around the corner. Don’t give up on yourself.

Thanks for reading I hope this post has inspired you all, to take time in your healing process and to not give up of this maybe a long process. Shar x

How to take care of My Self Care

Attending to your Self-care is an action that you can do to take care of yourself, physically, mentally, spiritually. This can be achieved by yourself or from the help of others. Paying attention to your self care needs can protect, maintain and improve your Mental and Physical wellbeing.

Attending to your self-care needs can sometimes be difficult particularly when you are experiencing a Mental Health difficult. It is common for people to have a lack of interest in pleasurable activities which can be a form of attending to your self care needs along with other elements. Suffering from a Mental Health difficulty can be daunting and very distressing and you may commonly feel like “what’s the point.” Commonly when you are feeling low or anxious, you may have a negative view about yourself, others and the world around you. By practicing self care this can help towards making you feel better, even if in the moment you may not be feeling up to it. Although this will take practice and consistency.

If you are someone who would like some tips on how you can manage your self-care needs, below are some tips on how this can be achieved.

Step 1 – Identify what type of self-care need you want to take care of e.g. Do my hair

Step 2 – Ask yourself if you know how to achieve this, for example

When – Monday 1pm

Do I need any help – Yes my sister has offered to help me

Where – At home

Duration – 2 hours (roughly) How – Washing my hair

Do I need any equipment – I need to buy / use shampoo and conditioner

Step 3 – Turn what you want to do into a goal to help motivate you e.g. My goal this week is to “Wash my Hair”

Step 4 – Break down this goal into manageable steps (easiest – most difficult) e.g. I need to wash my hair, blow dry my hair etc

Step 5 – Attempt to try this goal

Step 6 – Reflect how this has made you feel

Step 7 – Practice this and try to complete another self care goal.

Breaking down these steps may not be necessary but can help make things seem more manageable for yourself, if you find things like this quite stressful.

I hope that these steps were able to help you with trying to attend to your self-care needs, let me know how you got on or feel free to share any tips you may have yourself. I would love to also hear your ideas.

Shar x