How can I support my Friend with a Mental Health Problem

When a loved one is suffering with a Mental Health problem, it may sometimes feel difficult to know how to best support them and you may feel as if your letting them down or not being a good friend. Mental Health difficulties may make some people feel vulnerable, which may cause them to withdraw or isolate themselves from others. Sometimes it may be difficult for the person to express themselves. Try to remember as much as this is a transition and new experience for you, it is also difficult for the person experiencing the mental health difficulty.

Below are some tips of how you can support a loved one suffering with a Mental Health problem :

  1. Provide a Listening ear
  2. Don’t judge
  3. Check up on them
  4. Let them know you care
  5. Try not to get frustrated
  6. Be patient
  7. Research information for better understanding
  8. Don’t try to change them or rush their healing
  9. Uplift them when you can
  10. Be creative in your communication e.g. create affirmations, do small gestures (it’s the smallest things that count)

I hope that this post was able to help or inspire you to help out a friend who maybe in need. Shar x


Don’t give up on yourself

If life things will be difficult and they may not go according to how you had them planned in your mind, don’t give up on yourself. Life is a process and anything can happen, within this process. When you fall down, get back up and start over. Everyday is a fresh start a new beginning, you owe it to yourself to not let yourself down, you are stronger than you think and you can do this.

If Oprah Winfrey gave up on her dreams and gaols , she wouldn’t be inspiring the millions of people she is today (Below is a YouTube video you of her story). Now you may not want to be Oprah but I’m sure you want more from your life just as she did, despite all she went through.

Keep going, keep pushing, keep striving. You are not alone. Thanks for reading. Shar x

I don’t want to tell my General Practitioner about my Mental Health

Mental health Problems can be very distressing and hard to manage for some people, particularly if it is affecting your daily functioning (occupation, social). Trying to understand your Mental Health problem can sometimes feel difficult. Not only that explaining this problem to another person like your GP may feel very overwhelming and for some this can trigger unwanted emotions.

The first point of contact it’s advisable to make if you are struggling with your Mental Health is your GP, in case of an emergency (dail – 999 UK). Some people may feel unsure, worried or scared about contacting their Gp which may trigger some anxiety about the unknown, unpredictable and uncontrollable. This post will explain how your GP can help you and what they may recommend. (Disclaimer, I am not a GP but I have worked within a multidisciplinary team and have experience with working with these professionals).

General Practitioners are everyone’s first point of contact, for any medical healthcare situations or events (Physically and Mentally) your GP has a duty of care to you at all times. General Practitioners can provide information, support, signpost you to other organisations, prescribe medication amounts many more.. Always remember that your Gp will always put your needs first and help support you throughout your healthcare process.

When discussing your Mental Health with your Gp they may signpost you, or provide information, about professionals who you can contact that May further be able to assist you within this area. Your GP is there to help keep you safe and ensure that you get the right treatment and care for your difficulty.

If you are feeling Anxious or worried about contacting your GP about your Mental Health Problem below are some tips on how you can mange this.

Step 1 – Write down how you feel about going to your GP

Step 2 – Think of alternative thoughts if your feeling worried or anxious.

Step 3 – Write down the type of help you would like to revive from your GP

Step 4 – Write down how you would feel if you received this help

Step 5 – Research how GP’s support people, maybe this information may make you feel less anxious.

Thank you for reading this post, if you are feeling anxious about contacting your Gp I hope the information I have provided has helped. Let me know how you get on if this is you. Shar x

The Art of Therapy

Sometimes when you are going through a rough time, you may not have the words to speak and say how you feel, so you may decide to withdraw or isolate yourself form others.

When experiencing a Mental Health difficulty being able to express yourself can be difficult, and daunting, particularly if your trying to explain to others, when you in need of help. Sometimes verbal communication may not be enough to help get your message across because you may feel like you cannot find the right words to express how you truly feel. This is where the Art of Therapy begins.

In life there are various other ways that you can communicate non verbally to help share how you are feeling. (For example have you ever listened to a slow sad song and had someone ask, how comes our listening to such a sad song are you ok and you haven’t even said anything). Expression is subjective to each individual and you should feel comfortable in expressing yourself however it feels best to you. When you are finding it difficult to express yourself or mange how you think, feel and behave you can try some of the activities listed below and see if this may help. Being creative can also be very therapeutic, sometimes there is art in the silence or being imaginative.

Some other ways of expressing yourself and how you feel:

  • Art Therapy – Drawing, painting, culture making
  • Writing, poetry, songs, spoken words, script writing
  • Music Therapy – plating, dancing
  • Drama – Acting
  • Sign Language

End the Stigma

2019 we need to work towards ending the stigma associated with individuals with Mental Health Problems. With so much change going on in society today this needs to be a part of the movement for change. Just because someone behaves a particular way towards someone else this doesn’t mean that they will behave in the same way to them.

In life we are so quick to pass judgement on people without knowing there story, we met people at a particular stage in their life and because it may not be acceptable or in line to our lifestyle we make judgement on these individuals. Along my journey of self development I have learnt to accept people for who they are and to not judge people regardless.

This society teaches us to judge others who are different form us or make judgement on them, it’s ok to have an opinion on people, but if this is negative keep it to yourself. Individuals with Mental Health difficulties can often be portrayed in a negative light by the media and this is why other people will begin to judge everyone else who a Mental Health Problem. By doing this individuals can being to internalise this judgement and act out the self fulfilling prophecy (if you keep telling me I’m bad, I may internalise this and believe I am bad and act out of charter and behave bad).

As I have previously posted everyone in this world has a story, as to why they got to where they are today and there is pain in their struggle and the more we judge others the more pain we add to their struggle. Just because we may not understand there story it doesn’t make them a bad person.

Short and sweet post, but came to my mind quickly so I had to share. Thanks for reading Shar x

No Mental Health Problem is too difficult to treat

Mental Health difficulties can be very distressing and uncomfortable and nobody likes to feel stressed or uncomfortable. It can make you feel lost, scared, alienated and alone and cause you to doubt yourself and have a negative outlook about yourself, others and the world around you.

I am here to say that you are not alone in, even though it may sometimes feel like you are. in life we all sometimes think we feel a certain way, until we are shown how to not feel this way or until we are shown what we are seeking for. For example in general sometimes in life we may not know the opportunities that are assessable to us or we may feel like we don’t need help from others and we just want to be alone. This is understandable, however  if you have a Mental Health Problem or you think you do, or you just want to start looking after your Mental Wellbeing, I just want to let you know that there are people, Charites, organisations everything out there to help you achieve what your are searching for so that you are not alone. Mental Health can impact your physical mobility, thoughts and behaviour  and its important that if this is you that you try to seek help for this problem. People have studied hard and worked years to be able to help support you and your Mental Health difficulty and we understand and are here to help when you need us.

No Mental Health Problem is too complicated to treat.

 Thank you for reading.