Therapist Diary – 09 – If I had no followers

If you had 0 followers would you still do what you are doing today.

Being on social media can be a big distraction in life both positive and negatively depending on your interpretation, one question that I ask myself is if I had 0 followers and 0 likes and no support would I still what I’m doing today and the answer to this question is YES.

If I was asked this question a while ago I would have been reluctant and maybe of said NO but I’m so confident in my yes and that’s because what I do in my life I find so THERAPEUTIC for myself, my aim is to inspire others and motivate others but in doing so I’m also inspiring, motivating and encouraging myself. Everything I do now almost feels like a note to self which makes me feel so empowered.

So much has changed and happened in my life and I grow everyday and see changes in myself everyday which is amazing and I am so grateful with the person I’m becoming. When I reflect on my life and how far I’ve come it makes me smile and I done all of this on my own accord, motivating and encouraging myself which makes it so much more humbling and exciting for me.

My biggest goal is to travel the world and inspire millions of people sharing my message and encouraging people to build stronger minds and to never doubt themselves.

I thank you all for your support and for following my blog and I hope that I’m able to inspire you all with my post. Peace and Love ❤️ Shar x

My Perfect day

Have you ever thought to yourself ” What would my perfect day look like” if not It’s time to visualise and get creative. Our mind is so powerful and we can run wild with our imagination, it can almost feel like reality.

Today’s post is going to be an exercise, which I hope you’ll all will enjoy, participate in and share with your loved ones. I want you to think about what your perfect day would look like and visualise this, get a pen and paper and write whatever comes to mind. When you are thinking about this and making your notes, be as detailed as you can and think about your emotions.

Below are some suggestions of the things you can write down, but get creative and add as much as you life. IT’S YOUR PERFECT DAY !! 😊

MORNING

What time would you wake up

What country would you wake up in

What would the weather be like

What room would you wake up in

Who would you wake up next to you

What would be the first thing your do

What would you eat for breakfast

Who would prepare your breakfast

Where would you eat breakfast

What would you do after breakfast

DAYTIME / EVENING

What plans do you have throughout the day

What are you going to wear

How will you have your hair

Who are you with

How are your getting around throughout the day

NIGHT TIME

What time are you going to bed

Who are you going to bed with

Where are you going to sleep

What are you going to wear to bed

NEXT MORNING…….

You maybe thinking what’s the point of this exercise. The reasons why I recommended this as because, I wanted to install hope into your mind that you can achieve anything you want in your life, if your determined to make this happen. You are the master of you own life and you can create the lifestyle that you want if you just believe, think about all the emotions you experienced just writing down and visualising your perfect day. Now can you imagine if you created this lifestyle for yourself everyday, if you can believe it, imagine it you can achieve it.

Hard work pays off, YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF to smile and live your best life.

If you enjoyed this exercise let me know what emotions you felt and share with a friend❤️😊.

Peace and love x Shar

How to get back up when you’ve been feeling down

Lately I’ve been feeling soo drained but my momentum is slowly building back up and I know I will get back to the place when I was feeling 100%. I feel motived to write this post because I feel like this is the current state that I am at in my life at the moment, so I’m writing from experience which I always do but this is fresh and based on how I’m feeling at this very moment.

Let’s make a start…There will be some days in our lives when we are feeling low and drained, especially if you are putting to much pressure on yourself or your feeling lost in your thoughts, ruminating about things. This post will hopefully help to encourage you to get yourself back up and start over again, regardless of what day it is or what no. attempt it is. It could be attempt 199 it doesn’t matter, what matter is that you try your best.

The first step in helping you to feel motivated which will help you find yourself again is, being able to identify what caused you to feel this way in the first place. Once you can Identify why this is, it will help you move a step further. Always pay attention to how your feeling and when you may have noticed a change in your behaviour, thoughts or feelings. There maybe many reasons why you began to feel low and that’s ok, nobody can judge you for this because we all have these moments, but take some time to identify why. Reflect back to the time when you wasn’t feeling how you are today and what you may have been doing differently. It may be years, months or even days when you noticed the change and that’s ok, identifying the cause (trigger) can help you move forward. In life we can all relapse or lapse, it’s normal it’s expected, don’t put to much pressure on yourself and take you time. You can only go as fast as you let yourself.

The second step once you’ve identified when, why, how you got to this place is working out where you want to be and how you can motivate yourself to get there. Below are 3 tips on what I believe may help you achieve this.

1. Write a letter to yourself

Writing a letter to yourself can make things seems more real and current, in this letter you can include where you are now and where you wan to be in the future. It’s ok if you don’t know how your going to get there, because tomorrow is not promised for anyone, but if you plant the seed for your tomorrow and have an idea of what you want you can water your seed and help it grow. Watering your seed helps Aline your plant with the reality that it will grow and flourish regardless of what it may look like now. Writing where you are now can help things sink in and help you gain clarity of your thoughts. You may find that your not in a good place now, but have an idea of where you want to be and this will encourage you. When writing this letter take your time, don’t rush and be patient with yourself. There is no right or wrong way to write a letter. Just write what comes to your heart and what feels good to you.

2. Write down some Positive Affirmations

Positive affirmations are my go to, when I need that extra boost to help encourage and motivate me. When writing your positive affirmations it can be helpful to start with I AM, so your confining it to yourself and speaking it into existence. Positive affirmations should be statements that help uplift you and encourage you.

3.Write down your Goals

For me I believe that writing down goals helps give you a senses of direction or where you want to go and what you hope to achieve in your life. Goals help give structure to your lifestyle and most importantly help you learn more about yourself.

I hope you have enjoyed reading these 3 steps as they have helped me, when I’ve been feeling down and hope that it can also do the same for you. I hope that this post has inspired you to feel motivated and encouraged when you may be feeling down. If you have any ideas that you want to share with me leave a comment below. Thanks for reading Shar x

It’s ok to start over

My previous post outlines how I’ve been lacking in my consistency in my work ethic (one day I will share why). That post has motivated me to write this post, so it came in handy. Sometimes in life we can put too much pressure on ourselves to be perfect and to achieve so much. When you write down your daily goals, you may set your mind on achieving every single goal and if your unable to achieve this, you may begin to second guess yourself and you capability. This is normal and it happens there will be some days when you cannot complete all your goals for whatever reason, be kind to your mind and don’t put to much pressure on yourself because this may impact your mental and physical wellbeing.

This blog post is to encourage you all that it’s ok to take a break from things, find yourself and start over. Sometimes taking a break is what is needed to help get back that momentum that you need or first started with. One thing that has helped me in starting over again and not feeling upset with myself for lacking in my work ethic, is my positive affirmations. My positive affirmations is what drives me and motivates me to continue in what I’m doing. Having this affirmations are perfect for days like this, when I’m feeling mentally drained or low because it helps me remember why I started and what my focus and aim is to achieve.

Sometimes in life you may feel low, drained and unmotivated to continue and that’s ok because you are only human and there will be days like this. But always remember to find yourself and get a back up because you don’t want to continue feeling down that it becomes difficult to find yourself again. On the other hand if things do become difficult and you can’t seem to find that motivation to help drive you my next post will hopefully encourage you to get out of this mindset.

Thanks for reading. Shar x

Therapist Diary – 08 – Consistency

Lately in my life I’ve been feeling quite drained and tied and getting tooo comfortable with my bed and being lazy which has showed in my lack of consistency in my blogging. I love being able to blog and share my ideas and I know I need to continue and be more consistent. My work ethnic has decreased in all areas and I need to get back to the place where I was a few months ago (which I will). Quitting my job to do what I love was the best decision I made and sometimes I get easily distracted, so I need to start over again and “Feed my focus and starve my distractions” Blogging is something that is so new to me but makes me feel so happy when I post and share my knowledge, because I know it’s helping someone and from all your views this keeps me going and drives me the most not to stop. So I’m here to say sorry I’ve been away for a while but I’m back and I’m ready for more blogging.

Therapist Diary – 07 – Why I Journal

For the last couple of years I’ve been keeping a journal about my life, I find that writing helps me gain clarity of my thoughts, there are days when I’m feeling so inspired and creative I have to write everything down and start setting myself some goals to achieve. On the other hand there can also be days when I maybe feeling low or lost and I just write down my thoughts. My journal fluctuates, I have a written journal book and I also use my phone (notes). Some of the things I write in my journal can be, prayers, Goals, things I’ve achieved, what I’m happy about etc. My journal is my happy place. Writing a journal has helped be be true, kind and honest to myself because it’s only writing and reading it. One element in particular that I love about Journalling is looking back and re reading the front page,seeking how far I’ve come and grown and how I’ve achieved my goals years later. Such a beautiful feeling.

Below are some ways Journaling also helps me :

  1. Speaking/ Planning things into existence
  2. Reflecting how far I’ve come
  3. Creating my life
  4. Prayer request
  5. Working on myself