How to get back up when you’ve been feeling down

Lately I’ve been feeling soo drained but my momentum is slowly building back up and I know I will get back to the place when I was feeling 100%. I feel motived to write this post because I feel like this is the current state that I am at in my life at the moment, so I’m writing from experience which I always do but this is fresh and based on how I’m feeling at this very moment.

Let’s make a start…There will be some days in our lives when we are feeling low and drained, especially if you are putting to much pressure on yourself or your feeling lost in your thoughts, ruminating about things. This post will hopefully help to encourage you to get yourself back up and start over again, regardless of what day it is or what no. attempt it is. It could be attempt 199 it doesn’t matter, what matter is that you try your best.

The first step in helping you to feel motivated which will help you find yourself again is, being able to identify what caused you to feel this way in the first place. Once you can Identify why this is, it will help you move a step further. Always pay attention to how your feeling and when you may have noticed a change in your behaviour, thoughts or feelings. There maybe many reasons why you began to feel low and that’s ok, nobody can judge you for this because we all have these moments, but take some time to identify why. Reflect back to the time when you wasn’t feeling how you are today and what you may have been doing differently. It may be years, months or even days when you noticed the change and that’s ok, identifying the cause (trigger) can help you move forward. In life we can all relapse or lapse, it’s normal it’s expected, don’t put to much pressure on yourself and take you time. You can only go as fast as you let yourself.

The second step once you’ve identified when, why, how you got to this place is working out where you want to be and how you can motivate yourself to get there. Below are 3 tips on what I believe may help you achieve this.

1. Write a letter to yourself

Writing a letter to yourself can make things seems more real and current, in this letter you can include where you are now and where you wan to be in the future. It’s ok if you don’t know how your going to get there, because tomorrow is not promised for anyone, but if you plant the seed for your tomorrow and have an idea of what you want you can water your seed and help it grow. Watering your seed helps Aline your plant with the reality that it will grow and flourish regardless of what it may look like now. Writing where you are now can help things sink in and help you gain clarity of your thoughts. You may find that your not in a good place now, but have an idea of where you want to be and this will encourage you. When writing this letter take your time, don’t rush and be patient with yourself. There is no right or wrong way to write a letter. Just write what comes to your heart and what feels good to you.

2. Write down some Positive Affirmations

Positive affirmations are my go to, when I need that extra boost to help encourage and motivate me. When writing your positive affirmations it can be helpful to start with I AM, so your confining it to yourself and speaking it into existence. Positive affirmations should be statements that help uplift you and encourage you.

3.Write down your Goals

For me I believe that writing down goals helps give you a senses of direction or where you want to go and what you hope to achieve in your life. Goals help give structure to your lifestyle and most importantly help you learn more about yourself.

I hope you have enjoyed reading these 3 steps as they have helped me, when I’ve been feeling down and hope that it can also do the same for you. I hope that this post has inspired you to feel motivated and encouraged when you may be feeling down. If you have any ideas that you want to share with me leave a comment below. Thanks for reading Shar x


It’s ok to start over

My previous post outlines how I’ve been lacking in my consistency in my work ethic (one day I will share why). That post has motivated me to write this post, so it came in handy. Sometimes in life we can put too much pressure on ourselves to be perfect and to achieve so much. When you write down your daily goals, you may set your mind on achieving every single goal and if your unable to achieve this, you may begin to second guess yourself and you capability. This is normal and it happens there will be some days when you cannot complete all your goals for whatever reason, be kind to your mind and don’t put to much pressure on yourself because this may impact your mental and physical wellbeing.

This blog post is to encourage you all that it’s ok to take a break from things, find yourself and start over. Sometimes taking a break is what is needed to help get back that momentum that you need or first started with. One thing that has helped me in starting over again and not feeling upset with myself for lacking in my work ethic, is my positive affirmations. My positive affirmations is what drives me and motivates me to continue in what I’m doing. Having this affirmations are perfect for days like this, when I’m feeling mentally drained or low because it helps me remember why I started and what my focus and aim is to achieve.

Sometimes in life you may feel low, drained and unmotivated to continue and that’s ok because you are only human and there will be days like this. But always remember to find yourself and get a back up because you don’t want to continue feeling down that it becomes difficult to find yourself again. On the other hand if things do become difficult and you can’t seem to find that motivation to help drive you my next post will hopefully encourage you to get out of this mindset.

Thanks for reading. Shar x

Therapist Diary – 06 – Do it Now

In life sometimes we always want to wait for the right time or perfect moment to start something new or do something that we’ve always planned. What I’ve learnt in my journey is that there is no time like the present. There will never be the perfect time to do something and the quicker you start, the more you learn about yourself and allow yourself to grow and develop into the person you want to become. Life is a journey in which we are always evolving and learning new things about ourselves, embrace change and don’t be fearful of the unknown. Sometimes you may feel afraid about setbacks or judgement from others, another thing I’ve learnt is that people are always going to talk, no matter what your do. The best thing you can do in your life is work on yourself and develop in areas which you feel needs improvement. People will treat you how you allow them to, so master your craft, grow, learn and love yourself living your best life.

I wish what I knew now, I knew early in my life but I’m still happy at this stage in my life. I love who I am and who I’m becoming, I’m literally living my dreams connecting and working with people from different countries, doing events, public speaking, panelist speaking, coaching, travelling meeting beautiful people worldwide, building a culture for my business and soooo much more. I wouldn’t change it for the world. #GirlBoss

If you want to do something start now, your future self will thank you for it. 💛

I want to come off my Medication

Medication can sometimes be prescribed to patients when Mental Health problems, to help mange how they are feeling and feel able to function in their day to day lives.

Sometimes people may be responding well to the side effects of their medication or they may feel like they have had enough of being on medication for so long. If you are one of these people and you want to stop taking medication it is advisable to speak to your General Practitioner (GP) first before coming off prescribed medication.

It’s important to be aware that your GP should always be the first point of contact and in case of an emergency dial (999 – UK). It’s important to have the conversation with your GP about your views on your medication. Further discussing why you would like to come off medication and if they can support you with this process. Coming off medication with a immediate effect may be detrimental to your health, as this should be a process (weaning off medication) with the support form your GP.

Please speak to your GP of you what to come off your medication. Try not to make any immediate actions before, consulting with a medical professional. I hope that this post was able to help or inspire you, in relation to seeking help for medication. Shar x

My Mental Health at Work

Most of us spend the majority of our lives at work, which can combine between, full time, part time, agency or shift work. Sometimes it can be easy to forget about your Mental Wellbeing at work when your so focused on your career and your goals for the future. In saying this it’s so important to take care of your Mental Wellbeing, because Mental Health problems can affect your daily functioning (social and occupational). If you feel that your Mental Wellbeing is deteriorating, hopefully this post will help you look into taking care of this situation.

Let’s use an example;

Your in an amazing Full time job, great pay (bills are covered), fun colleagues (good social life) but your responsibilities are very demanding and causing your stress, making you feel mentally drained, ill and your not feel like yourself lately. What do you do ?

Focusing on this example, the most concerning element is, your job making you feel ill, mentally drained and your not feeling your normal self. Sometimes you may get these signals and think nothing of this, but generally this is your trigger for yourself, telling you that maybe something needs to change. Something that you love doing, in which you are skilled in shouldn’t be making you feel ill or mentally drained because this then defeats the purpose of your hard work.

Below are some steps that may be able to help you think about the next steps you could take if your having trouble with the example above or something similar.

  1. Reflect on how your job is making you feel (write down your thoughts).
  2. Write down the pros and cons to how your feeling.
  3. Is how your feeling impacting your work performance.
  4. Have others started to notice and decline in your performance.
  5. Think about how long you haven’t been feeling like yourself (feeling ill) and whether you are managing this appropriately.
  6. Have you thought about communicating how your feel to your manager or occupational health.
  7. Are you aware of your employments healthcare policy.
  8. Have you tried speaking to your General Practitioner.

Going through there steps may help you to reflect and think about possible ways you maybe able to help yourself. It’s so important to not suffer in silence and to reflect every so often on how your feeling. Always remember to keep in touch with yourself and be kind to your mind. Pay attention to any change that may be detrimental to your health.

Thank you for reading, I hope that this post was able to help or inspire you if you maybe experiencing difficulties at work. Shar x

27 Lessons from 27 years of Living

(In no particular order)

  1. Love yourself first
  2. Always take care of your self care
  3. Be honestn
  4. Be happy
  5. Create the life you want to live
  6. Stop making excuses
  7. Just do it
  8. Stop comparing yourself to others
  9. Be different
  10. Learn from others
  11. Read Read Read Read
  12. Look for the positive in things
  13. It’s ok to have a down day
  14. Surround yourself with people who lift you up
  15. Take every opportunity
  16. Have no regrets
  17. Develop yourself daily
  18. Never be afraid
  19. Remove the word can’t from your vocabulary
  20. Reflect on yourself and how you can improve
  21. Appreciate your life
  22. Stop looking for excuses
  23. Don’t take things to personal
  24. Master your craft
  25. Take control of your emotions
  26. Travel
  27. Believe in yourself even if others don’t

I hope you enjoyed reading this, feel free to share some of your lessons 😊. Shar x

Therapist Diary – 05 – Dealing with Negative comments

Everyone is different and have different life experience which make them who they are as an Individual. Certain people will behave how they have been taught to by others or from their own experience. Something that I’ve been experiencing quite a lot as of recent is, people having something negative to say, whether it’s a little comment or phrase and it’s annoying (for those who know what I mean) but I’ve been able to manage it and I would love to share this with you all.

Sometimes I think to myself, why do these people behave like this and at first it use to annoy me, but i learnt by becoming annoyed I’m lowering my frequency and allowing them to control my emotions. This all changed when i changed my thinking style, so now whenever someone has a negative comment to make, I just ignore them and continue with whatever it was that I was doing. Before I would always comment back which would alway start a debate, why did you say, why are you like this or this is what I mean about you blah blah. With the other person then trying to justify their reasoning, for their behaviour. Reflecting back on this, i’ve just wasted how many minutes talking about something that is unnecessary and pointless.

Don’t get me wrong I understand that we have a balance of emotions and sometimes we may feel low or happy on different days. However speaking negatively or also having to make a silly comment is just not necessary.

If your someone who is struggling with this or who doesn’t know how to mange when things like this happen the best advice I would give is IGNORE these people. Save your energy, time and focus and ignore them and sooner or later they’ll stop and if they don’t that’s something they will have to manage themselves.

Thanks for reading. Shar x