My Perfect day

Have you ever thought to yourself ” What would my perfect day look like” if not It’s time to visualise and get creative. Our mind is so powerful and we can run wild with our imagination, it can almost feel like reality.

Today’s post is going to be an exercise, which I hope you’ll all will enjoy, participate in and share with your loved ones. I want you to think about what your perfect day would look like and visualise this, get a pen and paper and write whatever comes to mind. When you are thinking about this and making your notes, be as detailed as you can and think about your emotions.

Below are some suggestions of the things you can write down, but get creative and add as much as you life. IT’S YOUR PERFECT DAY !! 😊


What time would you wake up

What country would you wake up in

What would the weather be like

What room would you wake up in

Who would you wake up next to you

What would be the first thing your do

What would you eat for breakfast

Who would prepare your breakfast

Where would you eat breakfast

What would you do after breakfast


What plans do you have throughout the day

What are you going to wear

How will you have your hair

Who are you with

How are your getting around throughout the day


What time are you going to bed

Who are you going to bed with

Where are you going to sleep

What are you going to wear to bed


You maybe thinking what’s the point of this exercise. The reasons why I recommended this as because, I wanted to install hope into your mind that you can achieve anything you want in your life, if your determined to make this happen. You are the master of you own life and you can create the lifestyle that you want if you just believe, think about all the emotions you experienced just writing down and visualising your perfect day. Now can you imagine if you created this lifestyle for yourself everyday, if you can believe it, imagine it you can achieve it.

Hard work pays off, YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF to smile and live your best life.

If you enjoyed this exercise let me know what emotions you felt and share with a friend❤️😊.

Peace and love x Shar


Stop blaming Social Media for your Problems.

Before I begin this post I would like to start of by proving you with some definitions.

The Oxford English Dictionary definition :

Sociable : Enjoying the company of others, friendly and welcoming.

Social : A social gathering

Media : The main means of mass communication, broadcasting, publishing and internet.

Social media : Website and application that enables users to create and share content in social networking.

Networking : A group of people who keep in contact to exchange information.

Reflecting on the definition of theses words, for me it’s confusing how a social gathering is getting confused with a website of application used to share content. For many years now there has been a lot of news based on, social media damaging our society and causing problems for individuals. When did your lifestyle become a website or application to share as a means of mass communication.

I think it’s time to put this to bed, when I hear all of these stories, not for one second do I blame social media. I blame the people going on social media and looking for someone else to blame. In life it’s so easy to blame others for our own wrongdoings or insecurities and not taking into consideration the biggest cause of your problem ourselves. We need to stop looking for others to blame for things we are partaking in willingly ourselves, nobody logged into your social media account but YOU and so you need to take full responsibility of how this is making you feel.

Sometimes we need to sit back and think to ourselves what input did we have to play in this social media faze. Social media is a platform created for a reason to help the right people, perform well and elevate within their business. Think of the the people who use social media correctly and how this is benefiting them,then think about the people who are using social media incorrectly and how it’s disadvantaging them. Below is an example

Using social media correctly

  1. Making money
  2. Building target audience
  3. Elevating business
  4. Inspiring people worldwide

Using social media incorrectly

  1. Complaining about social media
  2. Comparing themselves to others
  3. Low self esteem
  4. No social life

Think about this list I’ve mentioned above and think to yourself are you using social media correctly or incorrectly and if you are using social media incorrectly how are you going to manage this. Social media can be addictive but think about what you exposing your mind to, is it helpful and is it worth it. If it’s not helping you or making you feel good, it’s not worth it and you need to remove it form your life once and for all.

Therapist Diary – 08 – Consistency

Lately in my life I’ve been feeling quite drained and tied and getting tooo comfortable with my bed and being lazy which has showed in my lack of consistency in my blogging. I love being able to blog and share my ideas and I know I need to continue and be more consistent. My work ethnic has decreased in all areas and I need to get back to the place where I was a few months ago (which I will). Quitting my job to do what I love was the best decision I made and sometimes I get easily distracted, so I need to start over again and “Feed my focus and starve my distractions” Blogging is something that is so new to me but makes me feel so happy when I post and share my knowledge, because I know it’s helping someone and from all your views this keeps me going and drives me the most not to stop. So I’m here to say sorry I’ve been away for a while but I’m back and I’m ready for more blogging.

Therapist Diary – 07 – Why I Journal

For the last couple of years I’ve been keeping a journal about my life, I find that writing helps me gain clarity of my thoughts, there are days when I’m feeling so inspired and creative I have to write everything down and start setting myself some goals to achieve. On the other hand there can also be days when I maybe feeling low or lost and I just write down my thoughts. My journal fluctuates, I have a written journal book and I also use my phone (notes). Some of the things I write in my journal can be, prayers, Goals, things I’ve achieved, what I’m happy about etc. My journal is my happy place. Writing a journal has helped be be true, kind and honest to myself because it’s only writing and reading it. One element in particular that I love about Journalling is looking back and re reading the front page,seeking how far I’ve come and grown and how I’ve achieved my goals years later. Such a beautiful feeling.

Below are some ways Journaling also helps me :

  1. Speaking/ Planning things into existence
  2. Reflecting how far I’ve come
  3. Creating my life
  4. Prayer request
  5. Working on myself

Love Yourself

We live in a world where we are constantly shown or told to love others or love can only be found in a relationship, we watch television programmes like love island or the bachelor, with people constantly seeking love and approval from others and glamorising love from others. Don’t get me wrong loving someone and feeling loved by another person feels great, but loving yourself feels 100000000 times better.

A Poem about Love ❤️

Love yourself when you’ve just be diagnosed with a Mental Health Problem.

Love yourself when you’ve been put on the waiting list for treatment for your wellbeing.

Love yourself when your feeling Depressed and Anxious.

Love yourself when times are hard and you don’t know where to turn.

Love yourself when all you see is darkness and can’t find the light.

Love yourself when you don’t have all the answers.

Love yourself even if others try to bring you down.

Love yourself when you have nobody to turn to in times of need.

Love yourself when your feel lonely

You only have yourself so practice self love and self care, no one can love you more than yourself. ❤️❤️

Just wanted to spread some love in your life today, if you need some support with self love let me know in the comments below or send me a message. Shar x

My Mental Wellbeing is deteriorating.. what now

Sometimes in life depending on your lifestyle your mental wellbeing can slowly deteriorate and this can be for many different reasons, stress, loss of a loved one, relationship breakdown, financial struggles to name a few. This may then cause you to feel not as strong as you normally would feel and may begin to trigger internal stress. If this is you, I would like to say that this is common and you are not alone in feeling this way. Many people have different stress tolerance levels that can trigger a Mental health problem, this doesn’t mean that you are weak, it may just mean that you may could do with some extra support and a helping hand during this period in your life.

We all have Mental health, but this may not necessarily mean you will develop a Mental health problem. An individuals Mental wellbeing can be measured on a continuum, which varies for each person, one side of the spectrum being Mentally healthy and the other side of the spectrum being ill (Mental health problem). If you feel that you are struggling with your Mental Wellbeing, it’s important to try and take some time to reflect on this and begin to understand how this is making you feel and how it’s affecting you and your daily functioning. Once you have identified how this maybe impacting on your lifestyle, try and seek some support. Sometimes in life we can get so distracted that we forget to think about ourselves and our wellbeing. The same way you can feel physically drained is the same way you can feel mentally drained.

There are many organisations, charities that can support your with your Mental Health, providing you with the tools and help you need to work towards making a change and getting better. For more information on this you can email me

Thanks for reading I hope you enjoyed. Shar x

Walking every Morning WILL improve your Mental Wellbeing

Recently I have been going on early morning walks in my area, which has been so exhilarating and helped me a lot with my mental wellbeing and practice acts of wellness.

How walking can help your Mental Wellbeing

  1. Help with clarity of thoughts

When the world is moving so fast and you are part of this movement, always working by the clock, it prevents you from having time to think and gather your thoughts. Instead you think on the go, instead of thinking in the right moment. Walking will distract you from any disturbance and help clear your mind from all the racing thoughts you may have and helps with aligning your thought processing, by taking time with your mind. This will help you review your thoughts and create sometime for you to reflect on any thoughts that may be bothering you.

2. Help feeling Calm

Walking will 100% make you feel more relax and mindful, no clock watching, no responding to emails, checking social media or calling friends. Just you alone by yourself relaxing while you stroll. Mindfulness is being able to be allow all your 5 sense to be present in the moment and free form distraction, once you can remain in this state your body will begin to relax and you will feel at peace.

3.Reduce stress levels

Stress occurs when we our thoughts are constantly racing and we have no time to stop and think. Stress can make you feel pressured and may make you act out character. How can you stress when your taking some time out to walk alone and if you are stressed, talk to yourself let the thoughts come out (I have written a post on this, if you haven’t already have a read). Walking also helps to reduce your heart rate and lower your blood pressure.

4. Feeling more motivated

Once you gone out for a morning walk, when you get back home that’s a tick off your list for walking. Hopefully you should also feel motivated and determined for the rest of the day. If you do feel like this act on your feeling and continue with this drive. Set yourself some goals, work on something that you may have been putting off for a while.

5. Act of self-care

When you are doing anything for yourself which provides an act of wellness and make you feel happy within you are practicing an act of self-care. Doing what you love helps with making you feel good and sometimes this can be difficulty. So if you have no ideas of acts of self care, try going for a walk and seeing how you feel when you get back.

If you decide that you want to try this out, you can do this alone or hare the experience with someone. I normally go alone just to give myself some me time, or I may occasionally go with my daughter.

Thank you for reading I hope I was able to inspire someone today