Therapist Diary – 09 – If I had no followers

If you had 0 followers would you still do what you are doing today.

Being on social media can be a big distraction in life both positive and negatively depending on your interpretation, one question that I ask myself is if I had 0 followers and 0 likes and no support would I still what I’m doing today and the answer to this question is YES.

If I was asked this question a while ago I would have been reluctant and maybe of said NO but I’m so confident in my yes and that’s because what I do in my life I find so THERAPEUTIC for myself, my aim is to inspire others and motivate others but in doing so I’m also inspiring, motivating and encouraging myself. Everything I do now almost feels like a note to self which makes me feel so empowered.

So much has changed and happened in my life and I grow everyday and see changes in myself everyday which is amazing and I am so grateful with the person I’m becoming. When I reflect on my life and how far I’ve come it makes me smile and I done all of this on my own accord, motivating and encouraging myself which makes it so much more humbling and exciting for me.

My biggest goal is to travel the world and inspire millions of people sharing my message and encouraging people to build stronger minds and to never doubt themselves.

I thank you all for your support and for following my blog and I hope that I’m able to inspire you all with my post. Peace and Love ❤️ Shar x

Stop blaming Social Media for your Problems.

Before I begin this post I would like to start of by proving you with some definitions.

The Oxford English Dictionary definition :

Sociable : Enjoying the company of others, friendly and welcoming.

Social : A social gathering

Media : The main means of mass communication, broadcasting, publishing and internet.

Social media : Website and application that enables users to create and share content in social networking.

Networking : A group of people who keep in contact to exchange information.

Reflecting on the definition of theses words, for me it’s confusing how a social gathering is getting confused with a website of application used to share content. For many years now there has been a lot of news based on, social media damaging our society and causing problems for individuals. When did your lifestyle become a website or application to share as a means of mass communication.

I think it’s time to put this to bed, when I hear all of these stories, not for one second do I blame social media. I blame the people going on social media and looking for someone else to blame. In life it’s so easy to blame others for our own wrongdoings or insecurities and not taking into consideration the biggest cause of your problem ourselves. We need to stop looking for others to blame for things we are partaking in willingly ourselves, nobody logged into your social media account but YOU and so you need to take full responsibility of how this is making you feel.

Sometimes we need to sit back and think to ourselves what input did we have to play in this social media faze. Social media is a platform created for a reason to help the right people, perform well and elevate within their business. Think of the the people who use social media correctly and how this is benefiting them,then think about the people who are using social media incorrectly and how it’s disadvantaging them. Below is an example

Using social media correctly

  1. Making money
  2. Building target audience
  3. Elevating business
  4. Inspiring people worldwide

Using social media incorrectly

  1. Complaining about social media
  2. Comparing themselves to others
  3. Low self esteem
  4. No social life

Think about this list I’ve mentioned above and think to yourself are you using social media correctly or incorrectly and if you are using social media incorrectly how are you going to manage this. Social media can be addictive but think about what you exposing your mind to, is it helpful and is it worth it. If it’s not helping you or making you feel good, it’s not worth it and you need to remove it form your life once and for all.

Update Yourself in 2019

Do you feel like life moves so fast, like a recent post on Instagram feed. There’s a famous saying “Time waits for no man” and this is so important to remember because you could be living in 2019 but your mind is still holding onto something that happened in 2001. Learn to update yourself because;

    Time will keep going, the clock will keep ticking
    The weather will keep changing we will always experience the 4 seasons
    Technology will keep updating, new phones, new equipment.
  • When was the last time you updated yourself mentally ? OR When last did to reflect on yourself and make changes to your lifestyle ?
  • Sometimes life can be so distracting with so many things happening at once, that we forget to reflect on ourselves and instead we’re refreshing or social media feeds and updating on this. Reflecting on yourself is the key to self development and making changes, there maybe some areas in your life that you’ve been neglecting and it’s not until you, take the time to reflect on these areas that you’ll be able to know how to make changes. It’s never to late to reflect on your life and make changes. Everyday is a new day to work towards something different. You maybe feeling low, sad, upset today and that’s ok, reflect on this and try to make a plan of action to make a change for your tomorrow.

    Tips on how you can reflect on yourself

    1. Schedule a day and time to reflect on yourself
    2. Write down the areas in your life you want to reflect on this could be (work life, social life, home life, hobbies and interest, spiritual life)
    3. Write down some of your goals you and planned for this year
    4. Get a pen a paper to make some notes on your reflection
    5. On the day you’ve chosen – Start Reflecting
    6. Write down some areas of improvement based on your reflection
    7. Thank like about how your going to change
    8. Write down these changes
    9. Start Step 1 again
    10. Practice Step 1-10 and make it a habit to reflect

    I hope you all have enjoyed reading this post today, don’t forget to make time your yourself, you owe it to your future self. Thanks for reading x Shar