Update Yourself in 2019

Do you feel like life moves so fast, like a recent post on Instagram feed. There’s a famous saying “Time waits for no man” and this is so important to remember because you could be living in 2019 but your mind is still holding onto something that happened in 2001. Learn to update yourself because;

    Time will keep going, the clock will keep ticking
    The weather will keep changing we will always experience the 4 seasons
    Technology will keep updating, new phones, new equipment.
  • When was the last time you updated yourself mentally ? OR When last did to reflect on yourself and make changes to your lifestyle ?
  • Sometimes life can be so distracting with so many things happening at once, that we forget to reflect on ourselves and instead we’re refreshing or social media feeds and updating on this. Reflecting on yourself is the key to self development and making changes, there maybe some areas in your life that you’ve been neglecting and it’s not until you, take the time to reflect on these areas that you’ll be able to know how to make changes. It’s never to late to reflect on your life and make changes. Everyday is a new day to work towards something different. You maybe feeling low, sad, upset today and that’s ok, reflect on this and try to make a plan of action to make a change for your tomorrow.

    Tips on how you can reflect on yourself

    1. Schedule a day and time to reflect on yourself
    2. Write down the areas in your life you want to reflect on this could be (work life, social life, home life, hobbies and interest, spiritual life)
    3. Write down some of your goals you and planned for this year
    4. Get a pen a paper to make some notes on your reflection
    5. On the day you’ve chosen – Start Reflecting
    6. Write down some areas of improvement based on your reflection
    7. Thank like about how your going to change
    8. Write down these changes
    9. Start Step 1 again
    10. Practice Step 1-10 and make it a habit to reflect

    I hope you all have enjoyed reading this post today, don’t forget to make time your yourself, you owe it to your future self. Thanks for reading x Shar

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    Self Doubt and Mental Health difficulties

    Mental Health difficulties are different for everyone, which can be dependant on your lifestyle and upbringing. Mental health difficulties can be triggered for many different reasons, such as, transitions, stress, challenging situations, trauma the list can go on each reason is unique to each individual.

    Being able to manage you Mental Health difficulty, it’s so important that you are you honest with yourself and how you feel you can cope with what’s going on in your life at present. Mental Health difficulties can be a struggle to comprehend and get your head around and sometimes you may need help, but you may also be able to help yourself. The key to answering this question is being honest with yourself but not doubting you ability to take care of your Mind. Its ok to be scared and unsure of how your going to do this, if this is the case you can take the time to reflect on this and maybe find ways to help yourself. For some people Mental Health difficulties may make them uncomfortable and nobody likes to feel uncomfortable, however in order to get comfortable you have to feel uncomfortable.

    As previously mentioned, try and write down how your Mental health difficulty is affecting you and think of some ideas of how you can potential help yourself get through this. Also it may helpful and less stressful, to get loved ones involved if they are aware of your difficulties and together you can plan a self care programme that can help you. Alternatively if you have tried to Mange this yourself and you feel that you are unable to do this alone, maybe think about seeking professional help. Sometimes people need a helping hand when they get stuck and things become challenging. There are services out there that can help support you through these difficult times.

    Stay strong and take care of your Mind x

    I hope you enjoyed reading this post and it’s helped inspire you, in wanting to take care of your Mind. Love Shar x

    How to get back up when you’ve been feeling down

    Lately I’ve been feeling soo drained but my momentum is slowly building back up and I know I will get back to the place when I was feeling 100%. I feel motived to write this post because I feel like this is the current state that I am at in my life at the moment, so I’m writing from experience which I always do but this is fresh and based on how I’m feeling at this very moment.

    Let’s make a start…There will be some days in our lives when we are feeling low and drained, especially if you are putting to much pressure on yourself or your feeling lost in your thoughts, ruminating about things. This post will hopefully help to encourage you to get yourself back up and start over again, regardless of what day it is or what no. attempt it is. It could be attempt 199 it doesn’t matter, what matter is that you try your best.

    The first step in helping you to feel motivated which will help you find yourself again is, being able to identify what caused you to feel this way in the first place. Once you can Identify why this is, it will help you move a step further. Always pay attention to how your feeling and when you may have noticed a change in your behaviour, thoughts or feelings. There maybe many reasons why you began to feel low and that’s ok, nobody can judge you for this because we all have these moments, but take some time to identify why. Reflect back to the time when you wasn’t feeling how you are today and what you may have been doing differently. It may be years, months or even days when you noticed the change and that’s ok, identifying the cause (trigger) can help you move forward. In life we can all relapse or lapse, it’s normal it’s expected, don’t put to much pressure on yourself and take you time. You can only go as fast as you let yourself.

    The second step once you’ve identified when, why, how you got to this place is working out where you want to be and how you can motivate yourself to get there. Below are 3 tips on what I believe may help you achieve this.

    1. Write a letter to yourself

    Writing a letter to yourself can make things seems more real and current, in this letter you can include where you are now and where you wan to be in the future. It’s ok if you don’t know how your going to get there, because tomorrow is not promised for anyone, but if you plant the seed for your tomorrow and have an idea of what you want you can water your seed and help it grow. Watering your seed helps Aline your plant with the reality that it will grow and flourish regardless of what it may look like now. Writing where you are now can help things sink in and help you gain clarity of your thoughts. You may find that your not in a good place now, but have an idea of where you want to be and this will encourage you. When writing this letter take your time, don’t rush and be patient with yourself. There is no right or wrong way to write a letter. Just write what comes to your heart and what feels good to you.

    2. Write down some Positive Affirmations

    Positive affirmations are my go to, when I need that extra boost to help encourage and motivate me. When writing your positive affirmations it can be helpful to start with I AM, so your confining it to yourself and speaking it into existence. Positive affirmations should be statements that help uplift you and encourage you.

    3.Write down your Goals

    For me I believe that writing down goals helps give you a senses of direction or where you want to go and what you hope to achieve in your life. Goals help give structure to your lifestyle and most importantly help you learn more about yourself.

    I hope you have enjoyed reading these 3 steps as they have helped me, when I’ve been feeling down and hope that it can also do the same for you. I hope that this post has inspired you to feel motivated and encouraged when you may be feeling down. If you have any ideas that you want to share with me leave a comment below. Thanks for reading Shar x

    It’s ok to start over

    My previous post outlines how I’ve been lacking in my consistency in my work ethic (one day I will share why). That post has motivated me to write this post, so it came in handy. Sometimes in life we can put too much pressure on ourselves to be perfect and to achieve so much. When you write down your daily goals, you may set your mind on achieving every single goal and if your unable to achieve this, you may begin to second guess yourself and you capability. This is normal and it happens there will be some days when you cannot complete all your goals for whatever reason, be kind to your mind and don’t put to much pressure on yourself because this may impact your mental and physical wellbeing.

    This blog post is to encourage you all that it’s ok to take a break from things, find yourself and start over. Sometimes taking a break is what is needed to help get back that momentum that you need or first started with. One thing that has helped me in starting over again and not feeling upset with myself for lacking in my work ethic, is my positive affirmations. My positive affirmations is what drives me and motivates me to continue in what I’m doing. Having this affirmations are perfect for days like this, when I’m feeling mentally drained or low because it helps me remember why I started and what my focus and aim is to achieve.

    Sometimes in life you may feel low, drained and unmotivated to continue and that’s ok because you are only human and there will be days like this. But always remember to find yourself and get a back up because you don’t want to continue feeling down that it becomes difficult to find yourself again. On the other hand if things do become difficult and you can’t seem to find that motivation to help drive you my next post will hopefully encourage you to get out of this mindset.

    Thanks for reading. Shar x

    Therapist Diary – 08 – Consistency

    Lately in my life I’ve been feeling quite drained and tied and getting tooo comfortable with my bed and being lazy which has showed in my lack of consistency in my blogging. I love being able to blog and share my ideas and I know I need to continue and be more consistent. My work ethnic has decreased in all areas and I need to get back to the place where I was a few months ago (which I will). Quitting my job to do what I love was the best decision I made and sometimes I get easily distracted, so I need to start over again and “Feed my focus and starve my distractions” Blogging is something that is so new to me but makes me feel so happy when I post and share my knowledge, because I know it’s helping someone and from all your views this keeps me going and drives me the most not to stop. So I’m here to say sorry I’ve been away for a while but I’m back and I’m ready for more blogging.

    Therapist Diary – 07 – Why I Journal

    For the last couple of years I’ve been keeping a journal about my life, I find that writing helps me gain clarity of my thoughts, there are days when I’m feeling so inspired and creative I have to write everything down and start setting myself some goals to achieve. On the other hand there can also be days when I maybe feeling low or lost and I just write down my thoughts. My journal fluctuates, I have a written journal book and I also use my phone (notes). Some of the things I write in my journal can be, prayers, Goals, things I’ve achieved, what I’m happy about etc. My journal is my happy place. Writing a journal has helped be be true, kind and honest to myself because it’s only writing and reading it. One element in particular that I love about Journalling is looking back and re reading the front page,seeking how far I’ve come and grown and how I’ve achieved my goals years later. Such a beautiful feeling.

    Below are some ways Journaling also helps me :

    1. Speaking/ Planning things into existence
    2. Reflecting how far I’ve come
    3. Creating my life
    4. Prayer request
    5. Working on myself

    Therapist Diary – 06 – Do it Now

    In life sometimes we always want to wait for the right time or perfect moment to start something new or do something that we’ve always planned. What I’ve learnt in my journey is that there is no time like the present. There will never be the perfect time to do something and the quicker you start, the more you learn about yourself and allow yourself to grow and develop into the person you want to become. Life is a journey in which we are always evolving and learning new things about ourselves, embrace change and don’t be fearful of the unknown. Sometimes you may feel afraid about setbacks or judgement from others, another thing I’ve learnt is that people are always going to talk, no matter what your do. The best thing you can do in your life is work on yourself and develop in areas which you feel needs improvement. People will treat you how you allow them to, so master your craft, grow, learn and love yourself living your best life.

    I wish what I knew now, I knew early in my life but I’m still happy at this stage in my life. I love who I am and who I’m becoming, I’m literally living my dreams connecting and working with people from different countries, doing events, public speaking, panelist speaking, coaching, travelling meeting beautiful people worldwide, building a culture for my business and soooo much more. I wouldn’t change it for the world. #GirlBoss

    If you want to do something start now, your future self will thank you for it. 💛