How can I support my Friend with a Mental Health Problem

When a loved one is suffering with a Mental Health problem, it may sometimes feel difficult to know how to best support them and you may feel as if your letting them down or not being a good friend. Mental Health difficulties may make some people feel vulnerable, which may cause them to withdraw or isolate themselves from others. Sometimes it may be difficult for the person to express themselves. Try to remember as much as this is a transition and new experience for you, it is also difficult for the person experiencing the mental health difficulty.

Below are some tips of how you can support a loved one suffering with a Mental Health problem :

  1. Provide a Listening ear
  2. Don’t judge
  3. Check up on them
  4. Let them know you care
  5. Try not to get frustrated
  6. Be patient
  7. Research information for better understanding
  8. Don’t try to change them or rush their healing
  9. Uplift them when you can
  10. Be creative in your communication e.g. create affirmations, do small gestures (it’s the smallest things that count)

I hope that this post was able to help or inspire you to help out a friend who maybe in need. Shar x


Positive Self Talk

I am Strong

I am Brave

I can do this

Great start if you read those 3 sentences. If you’re not aware of what you just read, that  that’s ok because its what this post is going to explain to you now the. Positive affirmations are like positive prayers or words of encouragement to yourself. Positive affirmations should be a statement written by yourself, for yourself to help motivate, encourage and uplift you, for when you are feeling low or to continue encouraging you to keep going.

There may be times when you’re feeling low, or not up for speaking, by saying something to yourself even if you don’t feel positive will help you. When you say something positively you help to reprogram your brain and your subconscious mind, releasing a hormone that is telling your mind and bod that you are happy (yes even if you don’t feel like this). Positive affirmations can be said aloud or kept to yourself and spoken within your head, this depends on what makes you comfortable. Positive affirmations can be a good way to start, if may not be feeling motivate to do something. Sometimes when you are feeling low or anxious, you may not want not feel motivate to do things, saying something positive can be just as helpful for your mind.

When you say a positive affirmation, it is helpful to visualise, what you’re saying to help create your thoughts and have an image representation (for example If I say think on an apple, you already have an image representation of this and you can attach an emotion to this based on whether you like apples or not). Learn to be gentle with yourself and make yourself feel good, even if you may not feel good when saying this, you are still doing a good thing and helping to reprogram your mind. Always remember that you have to live with yourself 24/7, 365 days a year. Only you know yourself and what makes you happy, other people can add to your happiness but can never make you happier that yourself. You can do this.

How to create affirmations that are meaningful to you

  1. Think of the things that make you happy and write down what comes to mind
  2. Create a sentence out of the things that make you happy and internalise them, to make them personal to you.
  3. Try to visualise your affirmation as an image, to help what you are saying seem clearer
  4. Ensure when you say this affirmation is gives you a feeling where you feel fuzzy inside, filled with joy and complete happiness.
  5. Make sure that you believe what you’re saying with all your heart and write it down in a place that is visible.
  6. Don’t rush and take your time when you are thinking about what you want to write.

Below are some of my favourite affirmations that I like to say to myself.

  • I know who I am
  • I love the person that I am becoming
  • No one can make me happier than me I love myself and accept myself.

Before you sleep..Check on your “STRONG FRIEND”

Many of the reason why people don’t speak out about their Mental Health difficulty is because there scared of how others will perceive them, they don’t know what to say, they feel alone or there loved ones have created a persona for them that they feel they need to live up to.

Some people feel scared to let loved ones down so they behave strong for others to hide how they really feel. As a therapist I have assessed and treated many patients who have said to me “Everyone counts on me to be strong when they need help” or “How can I let my loved ones down im the rock of the family.” You will be surprised because the strongest person in your circle could deep down subconsciously be the weakest and are scared of failure or letting others down.

It’s sooooo important to spread love and happiness to everyone because you don’t know what people are going through behind closed doors. Alot of Mental Health suffers don’t want to be a burden on their loved ones so they keep quiet. Simply saying to someone “I’m here for you” can mean so much. So If it’s the last thing you do today make sure you check on your STRONG friend. Sometimes its those who we think our the strongest who may be struggling and feeling afraid to let us know how they really feel. Life can be so mentally and physically draining, we are all here trying to survive and do our best in life and this can sometimes be hard. Always remember those people who are there for you and have been there for you because one day they may go silent.

Thank you for reading. I hope that I have inspired you all to check on your strong friend and see how they are.